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Kaye-Ailsa Rowan, M.A., LMFT

AAMFT Approved Supervisor

California License LMFT 47779

How does family therapy work?

Families often experience stress around significant illnesses or changes. When your family experiences change, old patterns may not work, and old habits cause pain. Family therapy can help your family learn new patterns and adjust to changes.

Marriage and family therapists work with individuals and with families. Our special therapy focus is on helping you have good relationships. So in family therapy, the therapist works with the whole family as the "client." That doesn't mean that everyone in the family is always present at every therapy session. What it does mean is that the interests of the family as a whole, not just one person in the family, guide our work with you and your family. In the context of family therapy, we can work with any family members.

Adults and Family Therapy
Sometimes the stress that brings you to therapy is mostly yours. Maybe you're dealing with job stress, revisiting a childhood grief or trauma, or working on your relationship with yourself. Perhaps you've been depressed, anxious, or confused and want to deal with that one-on-one.

But often the stress is about your relationship with another person: for example, your partner, your spouse, or a child. When the stress you are experiencing is in the relationship between you and another person,  your therapist may recommend therapy that focuses on that relationship, such as relationship/couple therapy or family therapy.

Children and Family Therapy
At Counseling for Action, we believe therapy with a child or youth is most successful with the support of the adults who love and care for that child. When working with children and young teens, therefore, we prefer to see them in the context of family therapy in most cases. Even if a therapist sees a child individually, usually we will want to consult with the child's custodial parent(s) or other parental figures, such as foster parents, step-parents, or a grandparent guardian.

Teens and Family Therapy

Like adults, teens may be coming to therapy about issues that affect the whole family, or they may be working on individual concerns, especially if they're approaching adulthood. When you call for therapy about a teen (or when you, as a teen, call about therapy), the therapist will talk to you about what's going on for you. Based on what you tell us, the therapist may recommend either individual or family therapy.

What are some things that can be helped by family therapy?

At Counseling for Action, we provide psychotherapy for families who experiencing stress around issues such as:

  • Dealing with chronic illness of a family member
  • Recovering from traumatic events
  • Grief at the death of a family member
  • Adjusting to the loss of a family member through separation or deportation
  • Dealing with life transitions such as parental divorce, a family member coming out, an adult child leaving home, or a family member changing careers
  • Adding a family member: a new child, a new partner
  • Experiencing behavioral or school issues involving one or more of the children
  • Dealing with military deployment

Families frequently come to therapy during or after a divorce. We provide services for:
  • Adults adjusting to separation or divorce
  • Parents who want learn about co-parenting after divorce
  • Children and teens who need help dealing with the emotional changes from their parents' separation or divorce
  • Blended families and families with a new step-parent

When working with a child whose parents are divorced or separated, we can still work with the family. For example, your therapist might arrange to see the child alternately with each parent.

Our therapists also work with families in transition due to military service or deployment. For example, we can provide supportive counseling and psychotherapy for individuals or families who are:
  • Returning from military service or separating from the military
  • Experiencing transitions due to a family member's military service
  • Dealing with post-traumatic stress as a result of wartime experiences

How do I find a family therapist?

If your family needs help dealing with a stressful situation,
we offer a free telephone consultation to help you see whether one of our therapists is a good fit for your needs.  Call 408-390-3680 for your free consultation!